Thoughts and musings on the nourishment one’s soul receives from being in a stable long term relationship…
If you are indeed looking for love then not being in a relationship can be very very stressful. Constantly looking for the “one”. Dreaming of how things could be and of course being constantly disappointed by your very high expectations.
One of the most deep instincts of animals is to reproduce. As the vast majority of us have been raised through our childhood inside a family unit with a mother and father. A unit in which we are cohabiting together with a fairly high degree of happiness and functionality. This means that being inside a family unit is normal for most people. The structure of children, mother (mummy, mama, mammy), father (dad, the old man, daddy, pappa) grandpappa and grandmama… means that most people feel a better sense of order in their lives if they occupy one of these family positions… in the first instance of course as children.
So biologically, socially and environmentally most people are drawn most in their lives to one simple desire after childhood and that is to start a family. The economy is actually in this view an instrument merely to facilitate people to have families. To get the resources necessary to do that very thing.
These are merely some of the reasons that most people strive for family life. So being in a relationship is the first fundamental step to being in a family. Online dating is now arguably the number one venue in which people start the process of getting into a relationship. Being in a relationship brings a sense of achievement to one’s life. A relationship provides motivation and gives a focus to many of our goals both short and long term. Having also the emotional support and capacity to discuss our innermost desires in an objective way. There are so many benefits and positive effects of being in relationships. The mere feeling can be… well… sometimes an exultant jubilance!
The success stories evident from online dating attest to the accessibility and user friendly way the sites are made. From an Aberdeen Dating Site to one based in the Isle of Man the formula has worked. So much so that online dating is now the norm! Equally this is a sign that the courtship process is totally online friendly and remarkably consistent from Aberdeen in Scotland to Dallas Texas! There are also interesting increases in awareness of personal space, boundaries and etiquette when talking to those amongst whom you may find a connection! Really one of the most fundamental benefits of online dating is that you can be dating on the go. Practically this means you can be answering messages, making video messages etc in between business meetings. On the tube, travelling etc! This of course allows for more continuity and importantly for a fuller experience and for more to be achieved in the short spaces sometimes between making contact online, getting to know each other, and then meeting!
If you have not dated online then it is well worth trying! You will finde literally millions of people there.
Please read safety articles related to online dating as some of the safety protocols are important to familiarise yourself with.
Thank you so much!
Very best wishes!
InTouch Rugby Online Dating Editor!
