Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants:
Timeless wisdom on being a man
By Elliott Katz
Available on Amazon at :- www.amazon.co.uk/Being-Strong-Man-Woman-Wants/dp/0973695102
Men — Here’s how to have a good relationship
Marriage wellness is every couple’s goal. However many men today have heard confusing messages about their role as a man and when they follow these ideas, they find they don’t work and often make things worse and they can’t understand why.
How can a man regain a woman’s love and respect in a relationship?
Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man by Elliott Katz shares wisdom that works and is striking a chord around the world. The book has been translated into 24 languages by publishers in Europe, Asia, Latin America and Africa. “This book has saved our marriage,” wrote a man in an Amazon.com customer review.
Elliott Katz shares wisdom on how a man showing his share of leadership, making decisions and taking responsibility can regain a woman’s love and respect. As one women wrote about the book’s insights: “If my husband of 38 years had understood these basic but crucial truths, our marriage would not have disintegrated.”
Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man is available as a paperback from Amazon
and as an ebook from Amazon.co.uk: Kindle, Kobo, and iBooks. The paperback is also available in bookstores (distributed in the UK by Gazelle Book Services).
Three Things a Man Needs to be in a Successful Relationship
He’s sensitive and tries hard to please the woman in his life, but when there’s a problem that needs to be dealt with, he seems oblivious. When she asks for input on a decision, he says, “It’s up to you.” He wants to be nice but doesn’t understand why he’s frustrating her.
Elliott Katz understands why women today complain about the lack of quality men. “Today’s men have received so many confusing messages on what a man should be, they’re bewildered.”
“To avoid accusations of being controlling, many men have gone to the other extreme and avoid showing leadership and making decisions. The irony is that while men think they’re being sensitive and non-controlling, the biggest complaint I hear from women is that men today don’t show leadership, they don’t make decisions and they won’t take responsibility in the relationship,” says Katz, whose book Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man is being translated into 24 languages in Europe, Asia and Latin America.
After his own journey seeking insight on the man’s role in a relationship, Katz found wise advice in the lessons that fathers and other older men taught younger men:
Show leadership
One of women’s biggest complaints is that men don’t show their share of leadership in the relationship. When a man sees a situation that needs to be dealt with, he should step forward and handle it. People admire those who step forward to handle difficult situations – and don’t wait for others to solve the problem.
Make decisions
To avoid accusations of being controlling, a lot of men have gone to the other extreme – they leave most decisions to their wives. A man needs to make his share of decisions and take responsibility for the outcome. To many women, a man who avoids decisions is shirking his responsibilities. One of the meanings of the word “manly” is being decisive.
Take responsibility
Take responsibility for improving the situation. Don’t blame others. There is little sympathy for a man who blames a woman – even when he thinks she pushed him into it. People will say, “You’re the man. Why did you let it go on?” One of the meanings of the word “husband” is someone who skillfully manages his household. Managers take responsibility. “Divorced women have said that if their husbands had understood these crucial truths, their marriages would not have disintegrated,” Katz says. “Women give the book to men and say, ‘This is what I have been trying to tell you all this time.’” They ask, “How do I get him to read the book and show more leadership?” Katz advises:
Get him to lead – Let him decide
If he asks you to make a decision, such as choosing between Restaurant A or Restaurant B, simply say: “You decide.” Then don’t say anything else.
“Would you please handle it”
Ask him to take charge of handling a problem, but don’t tell him what to do. If he asks, say: “You decide. If you’re not sure, do research. That’s what I do.” Avoid contradicting him unless what he wants to do is dangerous or damaging.
Encourage him
Tell him he made a good decision and how you appreciate when he takes charge and handles a problem. If he made a mistake, tell him what you learned from it.
Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants is available from Amazon.com and bookstores.
About Elliott Katz
Elliott Katz is a professional speechwriter in Toronto and the author of seven nonfiction books and has done many radio and television interviews. Audiences find him informative and lively. He teaches the principles in this book to men and women, and speaks at seminars and conferences.
After the end of a relationship, Elliott Katz sought to learn about being a man in a relationship. He found books on marriage and relationships said little to him. He found powerful timeless insights in the lessons that fathers and other older male role models taught younger men. People started seeking his advice and would say, “Why didn’t someone tell me this before?”
Moving beyond the trendy ideas about a man’s role – that just don’t seem to work – Elliott Katz shares insights on being a man that have withstood the test of time. Interestingly, these insights are the traits that he heard many women complain were lacking in men today – showing leadership, making decisions and taking responsibility.
Testimonials
“An insightful book about one of life’s most important goals: How a man can be a hero to his wife” — Shmuley Boteach, Host of Shalom in the Home and author of Kosher Sex
“A cautionary tale, it cautions us to not throw out the baby with the bath water — to not toss out the man with the insensitivity.” — Warren Farrell Ph.D. Author of Why Men Are the Way They Are
“Offers hope to men and women alike — A must read for every man who is ready to reclaim his masculine self and start becoming the kind of man that a woman really wants.” — Robert A. Glover Ph.D. Author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life
“What type of man are strong women longing for? A strong man. In a very sensitive way, Elliott Katz teaches us a lot about this difficult matter. It is a lot of fun reading this book.” — Dr. Maja Storch, University of Zurich, Author of The Strong Woman’s Desire for the Strong Man
“A must read for men who feel they have compromised themselves and aren’t getting the response they expected, and for women who wish they were in a relationship with a real man.” — Aryeh Pamensky, Author of How to Make A Good Marriage Great!
Comments from readers
– Excellent! If someone would have shared this information with me years ago, it would have saved me from making wrong choices in a mate, divorce and years of raising children on my own with no positive male role model for them. Thank you so much for giving us this information. — Mary
– I feel like I am a good husband, BUT…I can definitely take more responsibility, and show more leadership. — Robert
– WOW! I want one of these, I’m glad that I’m not married yet so I can be on the lookout for one of these kind of men. Being in a partnership with a man like what was described would be absolutely awesome! — Kim
– Kudos to Mr. Katz. If my husband of 38 years had understood these basic but crucial truths, my marriage would not have disintegrated. It is refreshing to see that there is a man out there who actually ‘gets it’ and doesn’t have any qualms about telling it like it is. Wish there were more of the likes of Mr. Katz. — Maria
– I have the most wonderful husband but he is sometimes confused about what I want from him. This summed it all up, in short and not lengthy explanation – which I have come to realize is something my husband wants. — Bridgette
– I always wonder whether what I feel regarding my husband is wrong, but after I read this, it expresses my feelings exactly. Thanks — Sue
– This is what I was looking for in my efforts to be a better man. It could not have been written better. All men should read this. — Ralph
– This really tells it like it is. I’m glad someone is finally speaking out. My husband is now reading the book. Thanks. — Ann
